*BEEEEPPPPP* We interrupt the regularly scheduled broadcast of "The Rantings of a Normally Sane Momma" to update you on the following. Note: May not be suitable for pacifist's eyes*
Seriously. If I hear one more "Poor Daddy!" or disappointed "Oh" when I answer: Yes, I am having another girl... then, stand back. Because I cannot be held responsible for my actions.
Okay. So maybe I'll still be responsible for them. But I won't regret them. I'm way past too annoyed for that.
I was in town today for only a few hours. And everytime! someone spoke to me (outside of those people I was hanging out with), I got disgusted and/or pity-filled comments on the lack of XY babies being birthed from my womb. All in front of my other three girls!! Are you stinkin' kidding me?!
The first one? The head nurse that took us through our little field trip of the hospital. The last one? The midwife that checked me today. And many people in between.
Unbelievable.
I'm thinking of carrying around a large shocking device. A taser, maybe? That sounds rather appealing to me at this point. 'Cause really. I'm about to haul off and beat some...
Well, you get the point. This is Crazed Momma signing off to go locate the sweeter Me.
*BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP*
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August 19, 2008
August 18, 2008
Our First offical home school Field Trip
None too soon, we'll be meeting this little one that is already so deeply loved.
Charis and Selah talk of her like they know her. Raegan can already say her name. Jet and I talk, as we watched our little girl roll around in my tummy, that we are having a hard time waiting to hold this little one. to see her face. to know her personality.
Though, for now, I only prepare for tomorrow: OUR TRIP TO THE HOSPITAL!
...because the two oldest girls are planning on being a part of the delivery!!
When Raegan was born, Charis and Selah were as (if not more) interested in the blood as they were their newborn sister. It was hysterical. :) Apparently I have future medical personnel on my hands.
And being that they've repeatedly watched dvds of both vaginal deliveries and C-sections without flinching, we took them seriously when they said they wanted to be in the delivery room this time. And thankfully, so did my hospital midwife, Donna.
She even mentioned how she thought it would be such a powerful and intimate memory for the girls, being that they would always have their sister-relationships. even after we, as her parents, were gone. Agreed! ;)
So Donna gave me the name and number of the woman who could make it happen. And the rest is history. Well, almost.
Tomorrow! we're taking a little "field trip" to the hospital in preparation for Charis and Selah to be with me when Baby Girl is born.
August 16, 2008
Battle of the mind
There are days when I feel I am embraced by the Truth of God. by the protection of His Heavenly Kingdom. That nothing outside of his Perfect Will can touch my life. My spirit feels entwined with heaven. And I am at peace.
Then there are the other days.
Those days where it takes everything in me to hold on. for that place feels like a well-oiled, rain-covered cliff. it's inevitable that I will slip. lose my grip on that Kingdom mindset.
Then there are the other days.
Those days where it takes everything in me to hold on. for that place feels like a well-oiled, rain-covered cliff. it's inevitable that I will slip. lose my grip on that Kingdom mindset.
And this is where I find myself. in this pre-delivery season. every time.
For those that have read of the miraculous deliveries I've had in the past and think that I just sort of skip merrily to the hospital, sneeze, and pop out a baby...you are mistaken.
I fight for it. hard.
and it seems each time I have to fight a little harder. Which, honestly, baffles me because you'd think after three supernatural deliveries, it'd get easier. But mysteriously, it has not.
The months and weeks prior to delivery, there is a tangible battle that wages over the gateway of my mind. And I am left with a constant in-your-face decision regarding faith:
faith in what God has said: He did away with sorrow and sickness. or faith (otherwise known as fear) in what the world has declared: Don't be absurd. Sorrow and sickness are prevalent. Look around you.
But this is why testimonies are so powerful. They do away with doubt. They lay the Truth in front of you. God's power, in tangible form. in a personal way.
Thus, it is there that I find rest. In the reviewing of my own testimony. In the rehearsing of what God has done before and will do again.
So often, I read the Old Testament and think "Why can't those Israelites get a clue? I mean, for real, they encamp with the Manifest Presence of God. they just saw God perform a huge miracle. And now...days later...they forget? Seriously?"
I so would've smited them and said, "Uh-huh. doubt me again." I'm gracious that way.
But then I read the New Testament and see the exact same thing in the Disciples. The very ones who walked with Jesus.
He wowed the twelve when he fed five thousand (Matt 14:13), right? Then...not too long later, he wanted to feed four thousand (Matt15:32). And the disciples' reaction? "Where do we get enough bread to feed so great a crowd?"
Are you kidding me? People, people! Are you seriously so blind? so dumb? so completely inept when it comes to holding onto what God has done before? and will surely do again?!!!
Yet. This is where I find myself time and time again. Sure, he performed amazing miracles during each of my labor and deliveries. But...but...but...
Didn't both the Israelites and the Disciples "just" see Jesus perform the exact same type of miracle a short time before they complained and/or doubted? Had they already forgotten? Or were they, too, feeling the slippery cliff of the mind coming into play? That mental cliff that defies all past experience and mocks you as you stare the reality of the situation in the face and try to hold onto God's truth.
Maybe they weren't so stupid afterall? ...or maybe I just happen to fall in line with their type of stupidity. Great.
But I press on. determined to conquer this human mindset of "Yeah, But..."
And I will read and re-read the Word. Think and rethink of the past miracles. Set my mind on the things of God. the past intervention of God during my labors. I will choose to not hold onto the lies that the enemy is throwing at me rapid-fire.
And I will rest in the fact that even when my grasp on His Truth slips, His hand holds me still. For I am in His Grip.
August 15, 2008
34 Weeks Pregnant
The Final Countdown. @ 153 lbs.
It's been flying by! When I was pregnant with Charis, I knew...down to the day...how far along I was. I knew exactly what development was happening inside the confines of my uterus. I was on top of the whole pregnancy countdown.
But with this pregnancy, I'm having to constantly look at my calendar to remember what week I'm even on. Jet and I will lay in bed and "argue" back and forth about the week. He always seems to think I'm further along than I really am. The big lug. :)
But who can blame him? I don't even know my exact due date!! Maybe because the midwives all say "sometime in September"? So that's become my official "date" I suppose.
It's been flying by! When I was pregnant with Charis, I knew...down to the day...how far along I was. I knew exactly what development was happening inside the confines of my uterus. I was on top of the whole pregnancy countdown.
But with this pregnancy, I'm having to constantly look at my calendar to remember what week I'm even on. Jet and I will lay in bed and "argue" back and forth about the week. He always seems to think I'm further along than I really am. The big lug. :)
But who can blame him? I don't even know my exact due date!! Maybe because the midwives all say "sometime in September"? So that's become my official "date" I suppose.
Already, I'm feeling "pressure". For those that have delivered before, you know what I mean. And the practice contractions kicked in long ago. sometimes feeling not so "practice". ...I can definitely tell my body is gearing up for labor.
And so my mind follows. trying to take a firm hold on what God has in store for me during this delivery.
But those thoughts will have to wait for the time being. As I hope to spend the entirety of the day with my girls. On our Day Off from school.
August 14, 2008
"Someday my Prince will Come..."
*picture taken of Selah on her first day of Preschool this year...
Selah is standing in my room, looking at a framed picture in silence. One of The Man and I on our wedding day.
"Mommy, were you Daddy's Queen when you got married?"
Love it.
Don't you just sometimes marvel over the way a little girl's mind works? I do. Even at such a young age, they are already drawn to love and romance and being completely captivating to a man.
I hope she never loses that. I pray she wisely guards her heart and waits for The Man that will not only fulfill her heart's dreams. but God's dreams for her heart as well.
August 13, 2008
Home School Prep -Part 3
The Overall Heart of our Home (school)
One thing I've found as a woman... you cannot compare yourself to anyone else and still live an emotionally sound life. Comparison will eat you alive. There is, undoubtedly, no way around that. For in the mind of a female lives the indelible pull to self-critique and come up lacking.
And in the world of home schooling, that truth definitely holds true. Times ten. If you spend time and energy researching what every one else does, how they make it happen, how they get through their day, how their children best learn, etc etc... you will surely burn out. always ending up on the "less than" side.
For no child is the same. No mother the same. No family dynamic the same. Therefore no home school can be the same. If I were to get caught up in the "Keeping up with the Jones" as far as home education is concerned, I'd always feel like I were struggling to keep up.
pressing my children to be someone they were not. and losing out in the heart of home schooling: Getting to know MY children and encouraging them in becoming their best.
I've found such freedom in embracing this mindset. It's been a *deathblow* to the streak of perfectionism that runs thru me concerning educating my child. this knowledge that I am creating (OUR) family atmosphere that no one else has created before. Therefore, that no one has perfected before me.
THEREFORE, I am free to create...free to explore...free to make mistakes through trial and error. Sounds exactly like what I want for my children's school year of learning. Them feeling the freedom to learn through making a mess of things.
Finding the Heartbeat:
Once I felt I had our schedule set up (as flexible as it really is), I wanted to focus on what my purpose in home schooling them was. Not for legalism sake. But for keeping things in perspective.
Especially during this particular family season: Lots of little ones. pregnancy. Daddy's night school, etc. Life, for us, is smack dab in the middle of transition on all sides. So for me to think that I'm going to attain some sort of stringent "way to do things" won't work. I'll fall over from stomach ulcers before the first six-weeks period is over.
What is my heart for this season of home schooling, you ask?
Though I'm not quite sure how to answer that question with concise words, I can most definitely say that it is not to recreate public school in our own four walls: sitting at a desk. learning quick facts from a text- or workbook. shuffling their thoughts from subject to subject by the ringing of the bell (or clock alarm).
And though I may lack the perfect wording to describe what I'm thinking, I've run across other people's words that seem to encapsulate my heart perfectly. How's that for convenient? :)
This will be a stretch for me. I am a homebody at this point in life. One who happens to like order and all things clean. Hmmm...Lord? *wry grin*
With Raegan (17 months) wanting to explore the world with all five of her wobbly senses, there is no rest when she is outside. I must be on my feet and on my guard the entire exhausting time of it.
But my heart is to get over that and jump in exploring with all three of them. to allow MY own adventurous spirit to awaken and emerge once more. to encourage them in their imagination. and to maybe be reunited with the depth of my own. Letting them see, firsthand, that life's equation is NOT: Peak Imagination must happen before the age of seven..right before calm maturity must set in.
My goal this year to create a love for learning. Whereas it's tempting to just adhere to the SOLs in preparation for the end-of-the-year test... I want to, instead, focus on birthing in them an insatiable desire to learn.
So that they, for the remainder of their life, will continue to learn. not because they have to. but because they want to. because it has been laid into the foundational parts of their mindset concerning how they interact with the world around them.
In my heart of hearts, I know this cannot be established if I don't allow them to have fun. to laugh with me on a daily basis. to see me enjoying what we're doing instead of my just rushing through so we can check it off our daily list of accomplishments.
Lots of lots of hands-on projects is the hope here. And honestly? even as I type that, I think "Oh dear, God, give me strength." Because honestly, I'm tired. Really really tired. I've recently been introduced to a determined streak of "strong will" in my 17 month-old and I'm getting ready to bring another baby into the world. So I foresee my free time and available energy becoming less and less existent.
And "Hands-On" screams all about the need for MORE and MORE time and energy.
But regardless of where we are in this particular stage of life, "Hands-On" is still a foundational hope concerning the heart of our home schooling years. It may not happen perfectly this year. Or next. But it's all part of the vision nonetheless....
When I read that above quote, the word Adventurous comes to mind. Whereas, I know it can pertain to the Three R's...perfecting the art of reading, writing, and arithmetic... it's not where my mind goes.
My mind goes to rock climbing. cliff jumping. surfing. snow skiing. gymnastics. ...all the talents that I envy when I see others excelling in.
And the only way those others became proficient was by first TRYING it. That is what I want for my girls. The opportunity to try things that they haven't yet tried. to instill in them an unwavering confidence that they are capable of accomplishing great and mighty things.
before they acquire a fear of the unknown and they learn to remain content standing on the sidelines envying those who are out there doing it.
I want to allow time for adventure and daring. And I refuse to allow others fears (mine included) to become a part of the framework of their minds. I know you know of those people whom I speak...those fearfully-minded people who cannot keep from saying "be careful"..."watch out"..."slow down" etc etc when the slightest bit of "chance" is taken.
BUT I want my girls to learn to take a chance. Yes, to have wisdom in it. but to not shrink back in fear of it. or of life in general. I want them to learn to attack life and all its opportunities with brazen boldness. Something I was never encouraged to do, but want deeply to encourage my girls to become.
This whole concept of respect may be the key to what started me looking in the direction of home schooling in the first place. ...My seeing, firsthand, how teachers didn't always respect the child as an equal. as a person.
I was a substitute teacher for 5 years (most of those years during my college career). I became such a permanent fixture at a particular school that some joked how I was there more than the full-time teachers. So I got to really know the teachers. the students. and their dynamic relationships.
Yes, there are teachers who seem to have the innate ability to bring out the best in the children. And to those teachers, I applaud!! But I also came across a handful of teachers lacking in that ability (and many others) that really impacted me.
Teachers who thought nothing of crassly degrading a child, publicly, in front of his peers and me (who, at the time, was the young cool teacher that everyone wanted to impress). I saw it repeatedly. But one time in particular stands. The details I'll leave out. But I can say that I had to control my temper as this teacher spoke to me about a particular student. in front of the entire class. with the boy sitting right where we stood.
And I remember his facial expression of defeat as the other teacher left the room. I felt his broken heart as I tried to contain my anger at the teacher's haughty attitude of "hmph. showed him." I was ready to spit nails. To say there was no respect for the student would be a gross understatement.
Anyway. As horrible as that interaction was, I am finding that it's easy for me as a parent to get used to treating my children as "less thans". Am I the only one who has found this?! Like when I feel completely justified in my impatience at their immaturity. or when I feel right when I raise my voice in the "because I said so" type of attitude. those lovely parental moments.
But I want them to be surrounded by love. to know that, even though they make huge mistakes in their learning processes (and in life, in general!), that it's not a big deal. life happens. accidents are inevitable. failures come. But THE PERSON is still precious and more important.
So...what do I want for our home school days?
-I want to create an atmosphere where learning happens naturally.
-where true education, in all its messy glory, is fully welcome.
-where our days, in all their unavoidable moments of "less thans," are embraced for the opportunity to learn from the mistake instead of embracing guilt over it.
-where all of our senses are on the look out for God's profound ability to create joy in the hidden moments of the everyday.
THIS is what I want for our year. More than perfect scores on the tests. More than concepts mastered and reading levels advanced yet again. I want a home life of JOY, experience, creative expression, and confidence.
Because I believe that if my girls are raised in that atmosphere...are giving the chance to saturate themselves in that mindset...that they will be well-equipped to embrace whatever adventure the Lord has laid out before them.
And that is what matters at the end of the day. at the end of time.
that they embraced Life with creative and joyful confidence. loving the learning process. not despising the process of trial and error.
One thing I've found as a woman... you cannot compare yourself to anyone else and still live an emotionally sound life. Comparison will eat you alive. There is, undoubtedly, no way around that. For in the mind of a female lives the indelible pull to self-critique and come up lacking.
And in the world of home schooling, that truth definitely holds true. Times ten. If you spend time and energy researching what every one else does, how they make it happen, how they get through their day, how their children best learn, etc etc... you will surely burn out. always ending up on the "less than" side.
For no child is the same. No mother the same. No family dynamic the same. Therefore no home school can be the same. If I were to get caught up in the "Keeping up with the Jones" as far as home education is concerned, I'd always feel like I were struggling to keep up.
pressing my children to be someone they were not. and losing out in the heart of home schooling: Getting to know MY children and encouraging them in becoming their best.
I've found such freedom in embracing this mindset. It's been a *deathblow* to the streak of perfectionism that runs thru me concerning educating my child. this knowledge that I am creating (OUR) family atmosphere that no one else has created before. Therefore, that no one has perfected before me.
THEREFORE, I am free to create...free to explore...free to make mistakes through trial and error. Sounds exactly like what I want for my children's school year of learning. Them feeling the freedom to learn through making a mess of things.
Finding the Heartbeat:
Once I felt I had our schedule set up (as flexible as it really is), I wanted to focus on what my purpose in home schooling them was. Not for legalism sake. But for keeping things in perspective.
Especially during this particular family season: Lots of little ones. pregnancy. Daddy's night school, etc. Life, for us, is smack dab in the middle of transition on all sides. So for me to think that I'm going to attain some sort of stringent "way to do things" won't work. I'll fall over from stomach ulcers before the first six-weeks period is over.
What is my heart for this season of home schooling, you ask?
Though I'm not quite sure how to answer that question with concise words, I can most definitely say that it is not to recreate public school in our own four walls: sitting at a desk. learning quick facts from a text- or workbook. shuffling their thoughts from subject to subject by the ringing of the bell (or clock alarm).
And though I may lack the perfect wording to describe what I'm thinking, I've run across other people's words that seem to encapsulate my heart perfectly. How's that for convenient? :)
"Imagination is more important than knowledge." Albert EinsteinI don't want to just have them sit in their seats, reading about life. But I want them to get out and experience it. to have lots of time set aside to laugh. explore. dream. create. Which boils down to lots of time spent outside. getting filthy. exploring to their hearts' content.
This will be a stretch for me. I am a homebody at this point in life. One who happens to like order and all things clean. Hmmm...Lord? *wry grin*
With Raegan (17 months) wanting to explore the world with all five of her wobbly senses, there is no rest when she is outside. I must be on my feet and on my guard the entire exhausting time of it.
But my heart is to get over that and jump in exploring with all three of them. to allow MY own adventurous spirit to awaken and emerge once more. to encourage them in their imagination. and to maybe be reunited with the depth of my own. Letting them see, firsthand, that life's equation is NOT: Peak Imagination must happen before the age of seven..right before calm maturity must set in.
"The direction in which education starts a man will determine his future life." Plato
My goal this year to create a love for learning. Whereas it's tempting to just adhere to the SOLs in preparation for the end-of-the-year test... I want to, instead, focus on birthing in them an insatiable desire to learn.
So that they, for the remainder of their life, will continue to learn. not because they have to. but because they want to. because it has been laid into the foundational parts of their mindset concerning how they interact with the world around them.
In my heart of hearts, I know this cannot be established if I don't allow them to have fun. to laugh with me on a daily basis. to see me enjoying what we're doing instead of my just rushing through so we can check it off our daily list of accomplishments.
"I hear and forget. I see and remember. I do and understand." Chinese proverb
Lots of lots of hands-on projects is the hope here. And honestly? even as I type that, I think "Oh dear, God, give me strength." Because honestly, I'm tired. Really really tired. I've recently been introduced to a determined streak of "strong will" in my 17 month-old and I'm getting ready to bring another baby into the world. So I foresee my free time and available energy becoming less and less existent.
And "Hands-On" screams all about the need for MORE and MORE time and energy.
But regardless of where we are in this particular stage of life, "Hands-On" is still a foundational hope concerning the heart of our home schooling years. It may not happen perfectly this year. Or next. But it's all part of the vision nonetheless....
"Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered, you will never grow." Ralph Waldo Emerson
When I read that above quote, the word Adventurous comes to mind. Whereas, I know it can pertain to the Three R's...perfecting the art of reading, writing, and arithmetic... it's not where my mind goes.
My mind goes to rock climbing. cliff jumping. surfing. snow skiing. gymnastics. ...all the talents that I envy when I see others excelling in.
And the only way those others became proficient was by first TRYING it. That is what I want for my girls. The opportunity to try things that they haven't yet tried. to instill in them an unwavering confidence that they are capable of accomplishing great and mighty things.
before they acquire a fear of the unknown and they learn to remain content standing on the sidelines envying those who are out there doing it.
I want to allow time for adventure and daring. And I refuse to allow others fears (mine included) to become a part of the framework of their minds. I know you know of those people whom I speak...those fearfully-minded people who cannot keep from saying "be careful"..."watch out"..."slow down" etc etc when the slightest bit of "chance" is taken.
BUT I want my girls to learn to take a chance. Yes, to have wisdom in it. but to not shrink back in fear of it. or of life in general. I want them to learn to attack life and all its opportunities with brazen boldness. Something I was never encouraged to do, but want deeply to encourage my girls to become.
"The secret of education lies in respecting the pupil." Ralph Waldo Emerson
This whole concept of respect may be the key to what started me looking in the direction of home schooling in the first place. ...My seeing, firsthand, how teachers didn't always respect the child as an equal. as a person.
I was a substitute teacher for 5 years (most of those years during my college career). I became such a permanent fixture at a particular school that some joked how I was there more than the full-time teachers. So I got to really know the teachers. the students. and their dynamic relationships.
Yes, there are teachers who seem to have the innate ability to bring out the best in the children. And to those teachers, I applaud!! But I also came across a handful of teachers lacking in that ability (and many others) that really impacted me.
Teachers who thought nothing of crassly degrading a child, publicly, in front of his peers and me (who, at the time, was the young cool teacher that everyone wanted to impress). I saw it repeatedly. But one time in particular stands. The details I'll leave out. But I can say that I had to control my temper as this teacher spoke to me about a particular student. in front of the entire class. with the boy sitting right where we stood.
And I remember his facial expression of defeat as the other teacher left the room. I felt his broken heart as I tried to contain my anger at the teacher's haughty attitude of "hmph. showed him." I was ready to spit nails. To say there was no respect for the student would be a gross understatement.
Anyway. As horrible as that interaction was, I am finding that it's easy for me as a parent to get used to treating my children as "less thans". Am I the only one who has found this?! Like when I feel completely justified in my impatience at their immaturity. or when I feel right when I raise my voice in the "because I said so" type of attitude. those lovely parental moments.
But I want them to be surrounded by love. to know that, even though they make huge mistakes in their learning processes (and in life, in general!), that it's not a big deal. life happens. accidents are inevitable. failures come. But THE PERSON is still precious and more important.
So...what do I want for our home school days?
-I want to create an atmosphere where learning happens naturally.
-where true education, in all its messy glory, is fully welcome.
-where our days, in all their unavoidable moments of "less thans," are embraced for the opportunity to learn from the mistake instead of embracing guilt over it.
-where all of our senses are on the look out for God's profound ability to create joy in the hidden moments of the everyday.
THIS is what I want for our year. More than perfect scores on the tests. More than concepts mastered and reading levels advanced yet again. I want a home life of JOY, experience, creative expression, and confidence.
Because I believe that if my girls are raised in that atmosphere...are giving the chance to saturate themselves in that mindset...that they will be well-equipped to embrace whatever adventure the Lord has laid out before them.
And that is what matters at the end of the day. at the end of time.
that they embraced Life with creative and joyful confidence. loving the learning process. not despising the process of trial and error.
August 12, 2008
Busy busy
One day I'll finish my thoughts on OUR homeschooling home. And add a thought or two about all the Lord is doing. These are things I don't want to forget.
But for now, all I'm able to focus on is the fact that my time before Baby Girl #4 is short and there is much to do.
So I paint. And to take a break from that...I venture into the attic to retrieve six massive storage bins of girl's clothes to organize.
Oh. And home school. :)
But for now, all I'm able to focus on is the fact that my time before Baby Girl #4 is short and there is much to do.
So I paint. And to take a break from that...I venture into the attic to retrieve six massive storage bins of girl's clothes to organize.
Oh. And home school. :)
August 10, 2008
Sweet Sweet Saturday
Saturdays around here mean one of two things: time spent with Daddy. sleeping in. late breakfasts specially fixed by The Daddy. working around the house or doing something fun as a family.
OR
Getting up early. throwing on some clothes, preferably clean though definitely not a necessity. eating in the car. and driving around shopping at the beloved Neighborhood Yard Sale.
I love summers. And The Yard Sale is one aspect I love. For oh-so-many reasons, but one of which is because I get to "fun shop"!! Something I rarely, if ever, do because:
1. We don't have the extra money right now.
2. I can no longer bring myself to buy brand new. My theory...it gets stained and/or broken in record time. AND...why not let other people spend the big bucks and then, turn around and sell it to me for a quarter?!
That said, I've been shopping on and off these last months of Saturday. sometimes for naught. But it finally happened!! The Saturday that I've been waiting for ALL SUMMER: The Jackpot Saturday Of Yard Sales
...where I find things we truly need. laid out in someone's front yard.
...specific multiple someone's who have households of all GIRLS!! older than mine. who obviously are perfect children who do not stain or wrinkle their clothes.
...who's parents apparently cannot buy outside the doors of High Priced Chain Stores. and who come equipped with a lovely little inclination to price their yard sale things for a quarter. by the masses.
Okay. I'm better.
*BEHOLD!* The Booty in All Its Wonder:
Girl Clothes Round One:
2 pairs of pants, 2 sweaters, 6 dresses, 16 pairs of new socks. Mostly for Charis, who is the one in need! ...Gymboree, Limited Too, ...All name brand. ALL like new.
Girl Clothes Round Two:
11 like new shirts, 1 newborn outfit, 1 sweater, 1 lounge outfit, 1 pair of pajamas, 1 (more) dress... Again, mostly for Charis, the oldest girl and therefore incapable of receiving hand-me-downs from her sisters. Again, Old Navy, Gap, Gymboree, Limited Too brand names.
OR
Getting up early. throwing on some clothes, preferably clean though definitely not a necessity. eating in the car. and driving around shopping at the beloved Neighborhood Yard Sale.
I love summers. And The Yard Sale is one aspect I love. For oh-so-many reasons, but one of which is because I get to "fun shop"!! Something I rarely, if ever, do because:
1. We don't have the extra money right now.
2. I can no longer bring myself to buy brand new. My theory...it gets stained and/or broken in record time. AND...why not let other people spend the big bucks and then, turn around and sell it to me for a quarter?!
That said, I've been shopping on and off these last months of Saturday. sometimes for naught. But it finally happened!! The Saturday that I've been waiting for ALL SUMMER: The Jackpot Saturday Of Yard Sales
...where I find things we truly need. laid out in someone's front yard.
...specific multiple someone's who have households of all GIRLS!! older than mine. who obviously are perfect children who do not stain or wrinkle their clothes.
...who's parents apparently cannot buy outside the doors of High Priced Chain Stores. and who come equipped with a lovely little inclination to price their yard sale things for a quarter. by the masses.
....I'm sorry but I must pause for a Moment of Silence. 'Tis a truly sacred moment. This serious provision of God I'm getting ready to reveal....
Okay. I'm better.
*BEHOLD!* The Booty in All Its Wonder:
Girl Clothes Round One:2 pairs of pants, 2 sweaters, 6 dresses, 16 pairs of new socks. Mostly for Charis, who is the one in need! ...Gymboree, Limited Too, ...All name brand. ALL like new.
Girl Clothes Round Two:11 like new shirts, 1 newborn outfit, 1 sweater, 1 lounge outfit, 1 pair of pajamas, 1 (more) dress... Again, mostly for Charis, the oldest girl and therefore incapable of receiving hand-me-downs from her sisters. Again, Old Navy, Gap, Gymboree, Limited Too brand names.
Maternity Clothes:
1 summer sleepwear set (I'm sure Jet is tired of me wearing his boxers...I know I am), 4 shirts (all of which can be worn post-pregnancy too!), lounge/exercise pants, 2 pairs of capris. ....more brand names.
School stuff:
Two gorgeous, brand new "nature books" that we were going to have to buy. Soon. Complete with handmade paper inside. Perfect.
A large set of colorful bulletin board type "posters" for language arts. Like new.
A book of daily holidays and unit studies for each. I'm loving this book!
An organizational thingy for their room. In the true color of girls. Pink.
Summer Time stuff for Kids:
3 like-new swimsuits (two for Charis, one 2T) All brand name. All like new.
3 pairs of much needed shoes (one of which is brand new with tags)
1 swimsuit cover-up skirt
1 Gap winter coat for Charis. Like new. Paid $6. Fits her perfectly.
Can I tell you how stoked I am?!!! Because really, I am. Ask Jet's family, who was here, when I returned home with The Booty. I couldn't stop talking about it. looking at it. smiling over it.
Ah. Sweet bliss.
And why you ask? Because I came away with (at a very modest Internet-educated guess) at least $750 worth of clothes.
All for a whopping $33.
So how are we attacking debt (or at least not going into more), you ask? By having yearly yardsales and using the money for necessities. By not buying new (when it can be helped. obviously undergarments, food, diapers are new. You gotta draw the line somewhere, eh?). By utilizing other people's need to purge their house of things and shopping their yard sales. And By being willing to go without for a while.
Because yes, there are things that I'd like to have. Trust me. There are LARGE lists of Wants if I'm perfectly honest. But sometimes you just need to wait. And give God a chance to provide.
Like He did for me. Yesterday at my JackPot Weekend of Yardsales!!!
August 8, 2008
Home school Prep- Part 2
When we made the final decision to home school Charis for 1st grade, I said how I had to know, in my heart of hearts, that it would be done with utmost integrity.
... not half-heartedly. not half-committed. nor half-prepared. Because I know me. I don't do something half-way. Either I do it 100%. Or I... don't.
And though Charis more than excelled in her kindergarten year, I didn't feel like I "did it", you know? We had no set schedule. no specific goals. and therefore no "real" measurement of what we were doing.
So this year, her 1st grade year, had to be different. If I was taking on the education of my children for this season, I knew I had to set it up so that I could teach with integrity.
Meaning:
--it would have the full dedication of my time and energy. that they had my complete attention during learning time
--my depth of creativity would strive to engage their minds. that I would spend time actually planning fun and exciting things that would stimulate their brains and birth in them a love for learning.
--and most importantly, that I would do so with the fullness of joy in my heart. Notice, I didn't say happiness. Joy...handed down from the Father. Not based on circumstances. but something practiced. intentional. chosen.
Because I don't want to be a grouchy mom trudging my way through home schooling. Always annoyed that they aren't getting it right. doing it perfectly. or acting like mini-adults.
If I cannot do it with a smile... create an atmosphere of joy in the midst of learning for them... cause them to want to learn just by my attitude and approach concerning it... Then I don't want to do it. Period. What good comes from having a miserable mom/teacher?
SOOO for me, all of the above simply cannot happen unless the atmosphere I am surrounded in is pleasing. practical. and peaceful. Therefore, these last months have been spent preparing both myself and our home to do just that.
SETTING THE STAGE: THE HOME. THE CLASSROOM. THE EXPRESSION of LEARNING:
Since my mind is wired to respond to organization and beauty and comfort, I've just "finished" revamping my home (there's still more changes to come). making it more kid-friendly and less formal feeling. Because what child can learn in an environment where they don't feel they can let loose? Where there are rooms that they feel they must avoid when kicking back?
So a month ago, I prepped the home. Brought down the colorful table from the girls' room to the dining room. Along with some not-so-pretty storage containers filled with art supplies of all kinds. Carried toys and games and books down the stairs and set them throughout the house.
... not half-heartedly. not half-committed. nor half-prepared. Because I know me. I don't do something half-way. Either I do it 100%. Or I... don't.
And though Charis more than excelled in her kindergarten year, I didn't feel like I "did it", you know? We had no set schedule. no specific goals. and therefore no "real" measurement of what we were doing.
So this year, her 1st grade year, had to be different. If I was taking on the education of my children for this season, I knew I had to set it up so that I could teach with integrity.
Meaning:
--it would have the full dedication of my time and energy. that they had my complete attention during learning time
--my depth of creativity would strive to engage their minds. that I would spend time actually planning fun and exciting things that would stimulate their brains and birth in them a love for learning.
--and most importantly, that I would do so with the fullness of joy in my heart. Notice, I didn't say happiness. Joy...handed down from the Father. Not based on circumstances. but something practiced. intentional. chosen.
Because I don't want to be a grouchy mom trudging my way through home schooling. Always annoyed that they aren't getting it right. doing it perfectly. or acting like mini-adults.
If I cannot do it with a smile... create an atmosphere of joy in the midst of learning for them... cause them to want to learn just by my attitude and approach concerning it... Then I don't want to do it. Period. What good comes from having a miserable mom/teacher?
SOOO for me, all of the above simply cannot happen unless the atmosphere I am surrounded in is pleasing. practical. and peaceful. Therefore, these last months have been spent preparing both myself and our home to do just that.
SETTING THE STAGE: THE HOME. THE CLASSROOM. THE EXPRESSION of LEARNING:
Since my mind is wired to respond to organization and beauty and comfort, I've just "finished" revamping my home (there's still more changes to come). making it more kid-friendly and less formal feeling. Because what child can learn in an environment where they don't feel they can let loose? Where there are rooms that they feel they must avoid when kicking back?
So a month ago, I prepped the home. Brought down the colorful table from the girls' room to the dining room. Along with some not-so-pretty storage containers filled with art supplies of all kinds. Carried toys and games and books down the stairs and set them throughout the house.
I figured it was time for a change. Especially after the Lord told me "You feel happiest when surrounded by color. When you are surrounded by life!" And really, what's more colorful and life-giving than children's toys? and the subsequent playing of said toys?!!
After all, we ARE a family with lots of kids. May as well live like they aren't kept locked in the attic. I mean, yeah they are and all ...but we don't want to look like it, right? *wink/tease*
After all, we ARE a family with lots of kids. May as well live like they aren't kept locked in the attic. I mean, yeah they are and all ...but we don't want to look like it, right? *wink/tease*
And the results have been amazing! Craft items of all kinds are at the ready disposal of the girls. They use their table non-stop throughout the day. AND *drum roll* even Jet and I like it!! (I grew up in a house where I felt, as a child, everything had to look like it was out of a magazine. And I didn't want to do recreate that in my home...for my children. So I wanted the balanced look of kid-friendly yet beautiful. And I truly love the way it's coming together!)
Every room now has some sort of learning opportunity for them to engage in. A place for them to kick back and relax and play and learn and just be. Our home now feels like the Stage has been Set to Learn.
So then I moved on to the next phase: FINDING THE HEARTBEAT...to be continued
August 6, 2008
Homeschool Prep -Part 1
Our Daily Schedule:
After much thought and research and rough drafts and... this is the schedule we'll try to follow for our 2008-2009 home schooling day:
Charis's First Grade Year. Selah's Preschool Year. Raegan's Toddler Year. Baby Girl #4 Birth Year. :)
Not long ago, I had mentioned feeling overwhelmed as I was trying to wrap up the finishing details of our daily/year schedule. And how, in a split second, God changed the large majority of what I had taken three months to plan.
Well, that all surrounded "Galloping the Globe."
This Geography-based curriculum essentially takes the student through a study of the world by continents... broken down into selected countries. My plan was to take three years to complete it, changing the country of focus every two to three weeks. focusing on Europe and Asia our first year.
But it was overwhelming. I wanted to really study the countries. leave the girls with a strong basis for each land and its people. not feel pressured by time and schedule, especially if the girls wanted to go in-depth in their learning. which, for me, is a big reason to home school.
But all I felt that three week period would turn out to be, for us as a family, was an information cram-session and stress overload. It felt rushed. knowledge-shallow. and overall exhaustive.
So immediately after I prayed, the Lord laid it on my heart to, instead, do a year-long unit study of just Mexico.
We're already studying Spanish. Our church is bi-lingual. Our county is almost 1/2 Hispanic (though unfortunately not our particular town). I've been to Mexico twice and have some sort of understanding of the culture. The whole thing just made sense to me. (note: I'm sure the Lord appreciates hearing that His All-Knowing "suggestion" made sense to me.)
AND then the plan is to have Jet take Charis to Mexico next summer. Where she would get to actually submerse herself in the land, the people, and the language as Daddy and Daughter minister together on a church missions trip.
It's a perfect mix of putting to use what she's been learning, seeing that other children don't live as she does and! learning to step out in faith representing Jesus and his power to the world. All of which are priceless experiences at her young age.
The whole thing just gets me EXCITED. Which is a huge difference from where I was before. I no longer feel pressure to do a geography study (regardless of how small) every day. I no longer feel pressure at all! Instead, I can use the entire year to focus on Mexico's native culture, food, language, animals, etc etc. At our own pace. In our own time frame. As in depth as the girls want to go (or not go).
Leaving the girls with a lasting knowledge of this neighboring land and precious people!!
At this point (our first week almost over), we are yet to officially begin the unit study. But honestly, I'm not stressed. We have all year. I feel at peace. Knowing that I haven't set myself up, from the get-go, with too much on my plate. Especially being that Baby Girl will be here next month.
Thanks, Lord. Your oh-so-insightful suggestion is much appreciated. *wink*
After much thought and research and rough drafts and... this is the schedule we'll try to follow for our 2008-2009 home schooling day:
Charis's First Grade Year. Selah's Preschool Year. Raegan's Toddler Year. Baby Girl #4 Birth Year. :)
Not long ago, I had mentioned feeling overwhelmed as I was trying to wrap up the finishing details of our daily/year schedule. And how, in a split second, God changed the large majority of what I had taken three months to plan.
Well, that all surrounded "Galloping the Globe."
This Geography-based curriculum essentially takes the student through a study of the world by continents... broken down into selected countries. My plan was to take three years to complete it, changing the country of focus every two to three weeks. focusing on Europe and Asia our first year.
But it was overwhelming. I wanted to really study the countries. leave the girls with a strong basis for each land and its people. not feel pressured by time and schedule, especially if the girls wanted to go in-depth in their learning. which, for me, is a big reason to home school.
But all I felt that three week period would turn out to be, for us as a family, was an information cram-session and stress overload. It felt rushed. knowledge-shallow. and overall exhaustive.
So immediately after I prayed, the Lord laid it on my heart to, instead, do a year-long unit study of just Mexico.
We're already studying Spanish. Our church is bi-lingual. Our county is almost 1/2 Hispanic (though unfortunately not our particular town). I've been to Mexico twice and have some sort of understanding of the culture. The whole thing just made sense to me. (note: I'm sure the Lord appreciates hearing that His All-Knowing "suggestion" made sense to me.)
AND then the plan is to have Jet take Charis to Mexico next summer. Where she would get to actually submerse herself in the land, the people, and the language as Daddy and Daughter minister together on a church missions trip.
It's a perfect mix of putting to use what she's been learning, seeing that other children don't live as she does and! learning to step out in faith representing Jesus and his power to the world. All of which are priceless experiences at her young age.
The whole thing just gets me EXCITED. Which is a huge difference from where I was before. I no longer feel pressure to do a geography study (regardless of how small) every day. I no longer feel pressure at all! Instead, I can use the entire year to focus on Mexico's native culture, food, language, animals, etc etc. At our own pace. In our own time frame. As in depth as the girls want to go (or not go).
Leaving the girls with a lasting knowledge of this neighboring land and precious people!!
At this point (our first week almost over), we are yet to officially begin the unit study. But honestly, I'm not stressed. We have all year. I feel at peace. Knowing that I haven't set myself up, from the get-go, with too much on my plate. Especially being that Baby Girl will be here next month.
Thanks, Lord. Your oh-so-insightful suggestion is much appreciated. *wink*
August 5, 2008
Family Worship
One thing that I thought about when considering our home school schedule was: What's important to us as a family. What we, as parents, want to help them become.
And from that, I decided that we'd spend a large part of our educational day learning how to be intimate with Jesus.
how to be attentive to him. pour out our heart to him in worship. be creative in worship. give our personal giftings back to God in the day-to-day. honor him in our relationship with others.
And even though it's only Day 2, I can tell that God is honoring my heart as a mother and causing that hour to be a holy time of impartation.
YESTERDAY:
As we worshipped to a Darrel Evans CD, I felt a prophetic word for each of them well up inside my heart. I was so overwhelmed with the weight of it, that I cried as I shared this heavenly insight with them.
Even now as I see those things in print, I think "man, how brazen". But isn't that what God is? He boldly speaks excellence into our potential, birthing his plan through the spoken word.
And the fact that he laid this heavily on my heart on our First Day of School, in the First Hour, means so much to me. Gives me hope when I feel overwhelmed with the decision to home school with a baby due next month.
Of course, the "warm fuzzy" feelings didn't last the entire time. The instruments became a focal point for an argument. "That's mine! I had it first!" blah blah blah
But thankfully, before I joined in the ranks of yelling, God imparted to me wisdom that I got to share with my girlies...
And as little girl tears flowed, we got to talk about the heart of True Worship.
TODAY:
We were all worshipping, each in our own way. Dancing. Playing instruments. Singing. Twirling and laughing. When another fight broke out. You know, like they do when you are praising the God of Glory. *grin*
My immediate reaction was "You've got to be kidding me. Not happening in my house! You are so going to learn how to worship if it kills me." ...or something to that reverent extent, I'm sure. ;)
But just like yesterday, the Holy Spirit allowed me to not react, but to use it as a teaching moment. We talked about how things were not as important as people. That it was the relationships in our lives that we'd get to keep forever. Not the stuff. Not the money.
I shared how there were actually people who gave up their relationships with family members over "stuff". And they froze. "There are?!" Yes, there are people who refuse to even talk to their family members because of a fight over money or material possessions. Based on their sobering reactions, I knew that statement had hit home. *thank you, Jesus*
For me the conversation was pivotal. An eye opener as a mom to see how God plans to sovereignly use this short season of home schooling. giving me ample opportunity to deeply invest Godly Wisdom into them at a young age.
I absolutely love that they are getting to learn the importance of people over money at this age. Because even my husband and I have seen where grown adults have chosen greed and lust of money over family relationships. It's never pretty. But it's a heart reality/temptation that we all must choose to put off at some point in our life. The question of "Will I treat my stuff better than I treat this person?"
Even as a parent. I find myself getting frustrated if my girls stain the couch or rug or a brand new piece of clothing. But I always have to remind myself (and them): "I love you more than I love this couch."
And though it sounds like a duh statement, it's really not. Not if I were to allow my anger over the stain to cause me to lash out and bruise them emotionally.
So we talked about that as well. How it is a hard thing, even as an adult, to treat people with love if they were to take our favorite toy and intentionally break it. I confessed that I didn't know that I'd be able to respond in kindness in that situation.
And in that moment, all three of us (Raegan was still twirling at that point, I think) sat down in a circle, held hands and prayed. Asking God to forgive us for the times that we haven't responded in love. to help us to choose people/relationships over stuff.
It was truly, truly a sweet time. One that I know they'll remember years from now. even when the specific Language Arts lesson that we're getting ready to study will be forgotten.
Because these are the lessons that go deep. The God led ones. The Spirit inspired moments. The times that truly mold the way that they think. and the person that they ultimately become.
And from that, I decided that we'd spend a large part of our educational day learning how to be intimate with Jesus.
how to be attentive to him. pour out our heart to him in worship. be creative in worship. give our personal giftings back to God in the day-to-day. honor him in our relationship with others.
And even though it's only Day 2, I can tell that God is honoring my heart as a mother and causing that hour to be a holy time of impartation.
YESTERDAY:
As we worshipped to a Darrel Evans CD, I felt a prophetic word for each of them well up inside my heart. I was so overwhelmed with the weight of it, that I cried as I shared this heavenly insight with them.
Selah has been given the gift of dance... I don't remember the details of what was said. Hers was short and sweet.
Charis has been given the gift of songwriting. She will hear into heaven...hear the angels singing new songs, receiving worship songs that thousands will sing.
Even now as I see those things in print, I think "man, how brazen". But isn't that what God is? He boldly speaks excellence into our potential, birthing his plan through the spoken word.
And the fact that he laid this heavily on my heart on our First Day of School, in the First Hour, means so much to me. Gives me hope when I feel overwhelmed with the decision to home school with a baby due next month.
Of course, the "warm fuzzy" feelings didn't last the entire time. The instruments became a focal point for an argument. "That's mine! I had it first!" blah blah blah
But thankfully, before I joined in the ranks of yelling, God imparted to me wisdom that I got to share with my girlies...
"Worship isn't what we do (the cool sounds of instruments) but rather our heart focus."
And as little girl tears flowed, we got to talk about the heart of True Worship.
TODAY:
We were all worshipping, each in our own way. Dancing. Playing instruments. Singing. Twirling and laughing. When another fight broke out. You know, like they do when you are praising the God of Glory. *grin*
My immediate reaction was "You've got to be kidding me. Not happening in my house! You are so going to learn how to worship if it kills me." ...or something to that reverent extent, I'm sure. ;)
But just like yesterday, the Holy Spirit allowed me to not react, but to use it as a teaching moment. We talked about how things were not as important as people. That it was the relationships in our lives that we'd get to keep forever. Not the stuff. Not the money.
I shared how there were actually people who gave up their relationships with family members over "stuff". And they froze. "There are?!" Yes, there are people who refuse to even talk to their family members because of a fight over money or material possessions. Based on their sobering reactions, I knew that statement had hit home. *thank you, Jesus*
For me the conversation was pivotal. An eye opener as a mom to see how God plans to sovereignly use this short season of home schooling. giving me ample opportunity to deeply invest Godly Wisdom into them at a young age.
I absolutely love that they are getting to learn the importance of people over money at this age. Because even my husband and I have seen where grown adults have chosen greed and lust of money over family relationships. It's never pretty. But it's a heart reality/temptation that we all must choose to put off at some point in our life. The question of "Will I treat my stuff better than I treat this person?"
Even as a parent. I find myself getting frustrated if my girls stain the couch or rug or a brand new piece of clothing. But I always have to remind myself (and them): "I love you more than I love this couch."
And though it sounds like a duh statement, it's really not. Not if I were to allow my anger over the stain to cause me to lash out and bruise them emotionally.
So we talked about that as well. How it is a hard thing, even as an adult, to treat people with love if they were to take our favorite toy and intentionally break it. I confessed that I didn't know that I'd be able to respond in kindness in that situation.
And in that moment, all three of us (Raegan was still twirling at that point, I think) sat down in a circle, held hands and prayed. Asking God to forgive us for the times that we haven't responded in love. to help us to choose people/relationships over stuff.
It was truly, truly a sweet time. One that I know they'll remember years from now. even when the specific Language Arts lesson that we're getting ready to study will be forgotten.
Because these are the lessons that go deep. The God led ones. The Spirit inspired moments. The times that truly mold the way that they think. and the person that they ultimately become.
August 3, 2008
The Morning After the Storm
Last night as Jet and my dad attacked the tree that lay across our cars and as I packed for an overnight at my parent's house (due to an electrical outage), my emotions began to war inside me.
Like an unseen spiritual tornado of my very own. uncovering. unsettling. uprooting. all the hidden places of my heart.
Yippee.
Maybe the emotional "instability" was because I was contracting prematurely? Maybe it was due to my not having slept the night before? Or because I had already been frustrated and stressed by the day's events prior to the tornado? Because, really, all of those things are fairly relevant reasons to feel undone at the end of the day.
But somehow I knew it was something more...
I had been telling Jet for days that I felt like this yard sale held significant meaning for us in the spiritual realm. Like a tangible, real-life parallel to the spirit realm that only God, in his creativity, can author. but that I was catching wind of deep within me.
That just as we were getting rid of the final load of unnecessary stuff that we u-hauled back and forth across the country, we'd also be unloading the remaining emotional baggage that we still carried due to that season.
Maybe that only makes sense to the one who is experiencing it? But regardless of how "flighty" it may sound, I cannot shake the realization that a door has been closed behind us. a season officially ended. a supernatural severing of the chains that bound.
That by God's grace and sovereign timing, we no longer harbor the junk that was stored deep within in the crevices of our heart. and now, due to our "unloading", we have access to the future He has promised us.
Right after I tried to verbalize my feeling to Jet about the coming yard sale and it's spiritual implication, he was listening to a teaching tape from Graham Cooke, who said:
Exactly. We made room in our home. And God made room in our hearts.
But what I didn't expect was that stinkin' tornado, you know? I didn't know that was part of the parallel He had in mind. For God was sending his own gale force wind into my heart. and I felt like emotional debris lay everywhere... so that by the time Jet and I went to bed in the upstairs guest bedroom at my parent's house, I was completely undone.
And for the first time in a LONG time, I allowed my emotions to surface. Fears, frustrations, anger, you name it... came rushing out as I lay there crying.
Relationships that bring up all sorts of negative emotions for both of us... My (in)ability as a mom... My frustration with where our marriage has or hasn't been in the past...
The gamut of emotions. The spectrum of topics. Things I didn't even realize were there. Things I had never taken the time to even acknowledge. The Lord unexpectedly shook it all loose. It was a lovely time of tears, snot, and raw emotions. Jet was amazing. And it actually was a sweet time. Oddly enough.
And the thing that struck me as we drove home the Morning After:
Exactly as I believe it happened in the spirit. A complete uprooting. Yet. it didn't hurt.
Though it may take some time for me to get used to the new look, especially the way the lack of tree allows exposure (of both my house and my heart), I trust. that as God's hand caused a shaking to occur within me, he will also bring me to a more steady place.
A place where my weakness has been shaken off and carried away, leaving only the strong branches behind.
Like an unseen spiritual tornado of my very own. uncovering. unsettling. uprooting. all the hidden places of my heart.
Yippee.
Maybe the emotional "instability" was because I was contracting prematurely? Maybe it was due to my not having slept the night before? Or because I had already been frustrated and stressed by the day's events prior to the tornado? Because, really, all of those things are fairly relevant reasons to feel undone at the end of the day.
But somehow I knew it was something more...
I had been telling Jet for days that I felt like this yard sale held significant meaning for us in the spiritual realm. Like a tangible, real-life parallel to the spirit realm that only God, in his creativity, can author. but that I was catching wind of deep within me.
Somehow I knew that upon the completion of our yard sale, there would also be a completion of all the *crap* that came out of the season of testing in Texas.
That just as we were getting rid of the final load of unnecessary stuff that we u-hauled back and forth across the country, we'd also be unloading the remaining emotional baggage that we still carried due to that season.
Maybe that only makes sense to the one who is experiencing it? But regardless of how "flighty" it may sound, I cannot shake the realization that a door has been closed behind us. a season officially ended. a supernatural severing of the chains that bound.
That by God's grace and sovereign timing, we no longer harbor the junk that was stored deep within in the crevices of our heart. and now, due to our "unloading", we have access to the future He has promised us.
Right after I tried to verbalize my feeling to Jet about the coming yard sale and it's spiritual implication, he was listening to a teaching tape from Graham Cooke, who said:
"Many people earnestly pray for the presence of God but are not making any room for His presence in their lives." and " God's presence will fill the area that you submit to Him."
Exactly. We made room in our home. And God made room in our hearts.
But what I didn't expect was that stinkin' tornado, you know? I didn't know that was part of the parallel He had in mind. For God was sending his own gale force wind into my heart. and I felt like emotional debris lay everywhere... so that by the time Jet and I went to bed in the upstairs guest bedroom at my parent's house, I was completely undone.
And for the first time in a LONG time, I allowed my emotions to surface. Fears, frustrations, anger, you name it... came rushing out as I lay there crying.
Relationships that bring up all sorts of negative emotions for both of us... My (in)ability as a mom... My frustration with where our marriage has or hasn't been in the past...
The gamut of emotions. The spectrum of topics. Things I didn't even realize were there. Things I had never taken the time to even acknowledge. The Lord unexpectedly shook it all loose. It was a lovely time of tears, snot, and raw emotions. Jet was amazing. And it actually was a sweet time. Oddly enough.
And the thing that struck me as we drove home the Morning After:
That the tree that fell in our yard came up by the root. a complete uprooting. Yet in the process, no one and nothing was hurt.
Exactly as I believe it happened in the spirit. A complete uprooting. Yet. it didn't hurt.
Though it may take some time for me to get used to the new look, especially the way the lack of tree allows exposure (of both my house and my heart), I trust. that as God's hand caused a shaking to occur within me, he will also bring me to a more steady place.
A place where my weakness has been shaken off and carried away, leaving only the strong branches behind.
Quote of the Day...
"You sure picked quite the day to have your yard sale, brother!"
You think? This little ditty of a statement was spoken to Jet, by the retired town mayor, as we walked around our neighborhood. surveying the damage following the tornado.
Yep, a tornado. At least that's how my neighborhood would categorize it. Though we're still waiting for the National Weather Service to give the official say-so.
THE ILL-TIMED YARDSALE:
Suffice it to say, it wasn't the best one I've ever had. Though the most memorable. *Forgive me a slight roll of the eyes, would you?*
It rained from 5 to 10 AM. At which point, the sun came out and preformed beautifully. Giving me enough time to make a whooping profit (after the newspaper ad) of $57, all while masterfully singing the lyrics for the 60's hit "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to..." over and over again.
But in the spirit of Pollyanna, Jet and I optimistically smiled as he dropped off our first round of large boxes at the local DropOff. At 9 AM. Can you tell we were anxious? But hey, it's junk that we will never have to deal with again. What's not to love about that?!
By 1 AM, we were loading up the remaining contents of 7 yard sale tables and the 10-foot long clothes hanging device. All the while, sorting out the stuff that we wanted to keep for next year's yard sale.
I know, I know, I'm a glutton for punishment. But we figured we made diddly-squat at this sale and we just can't bring ourselves to throw away almost new name-brand clothes (donated by family members) just for the sake of reducing clutter in the attic. But anyway.
Jet had just left with a truckload of boxes to take to the drop off...1 mile down the road....while Mom and I were leisurely packing up the boxes. And then, the rain hit.
Slowly. Slowly. No big deal. It even looked like it was going around our little town. But regardless, we worked fast to avoid getting wet.
Then...from the distance you could tell something was brewing. Well, at least Mom said she could. I was blissfully clueless. ... so maybe blissfully wasn't the best descriptor of my attitude at the time. But clueless 'bout sums it up.
The last of the boxes were just set on the porch, when we turned our attention to the fold up tables. Suddenly Mom yelled, "Quick. Forget the tables! Get the stuff inside!"
And the wind came.
Mom, having the presence of mind to think beyond the task at hand, asked if I wanted to bring in our doberman. "Uh, Nooooo." The thought of having a half-wet dog running through the house did not appeal to me on top of everything else I was doing.
As it obviously takes a lot of energy to be dramatic and annoyed.
Meanwhile, Super Mom ran to the backyard to close the door of our shed (*thanks mom*). Something I felt was completely irrelevant at the time.
We had literally JUST thrown all of the yardsale boxes in the front door, when the BIG winds hit. With full force.
THE TORNADO:
After that, I began to realize that this was not a normal summer storm. For those readers that experienced it, yes...it did take me a while to shake my clueless stupor.
Though to my defense, it only took half of a large tree crashing down on our cars. and the horizontal hail beating on the windows. But hey, I'm quick that way.
Then all logical thinking left.
I wanted to go outside and get my dog. move the cars. anything where I'd feel like I had some semblance of control. Obviously, I wasn't thinking straight. But my Calm and Collected Mother wouldn't allow me and my pregnant body to go outside, so all I could do was pray in the spirit.
...and frantically run upstairs to get Raegan up from her nap, trying desperately not to think about the possibilities as we sat in a house filled with 5 ft. bay windows and no basement.
Trying to calm my children, I could only lead them in half-mumbled, half-controlled sobbed prayers for Daddy who was still out in it. Especially as Charis tearfully whispered, "Will Daddy die?"
Uh? This is when Hug Therapy works wonders. Because words fail you.
At that moment, being the emotionally sound mom, I did the only thing I could do. I left the girls with Grandma.
So I could pace. stare out the windows. and watch in horror as our porch swing repeatedly beat the top of the porch roof and the second half of the tree fell on our cars.
All the while, asking outloud "God, where is my husband?" begging God to return him safely.
And then I saw him. just pulling in. drenched and sitting in his truck on our front grass. My immediate thought, after complete relief at his being alive and in one piece, was "Don't just sit there...I can't handle watching you get hurt in front of my eyes!" Thankfully, he ran inside or I would have gone out to him.
It's amazing to me how he changes everything. Even though nothing in our immediate circumstances changed, I felt safer and more at peace just having him there. His presence just does that.
...Even after he confessed that he thought his truck would take flight out in the middle of the storm. with him in it. as he watched electrical wires spark and fall all around him.
THE PICTURES:
Mom telling Jet (who had just removed his dripping wet shirt) how the tree went down. trying to survey the damage to our cars. and generally just giving the recap from our point of view.
A few minutes after things had quieted down, Jet's cell phone rang. It was our friends Nell-Marie and Gil, calling to make sure we were okay. (They were on their way to the mountains and, if I understand it correctly, saw our house as they passed. That's N.M. in the picture). While Jet was still talking to Nell-Marie, another friend (Aaron S) beeped in.
I can't tell you how blessed we were by those calls. Life from outside the storm. It was literally like tangible Hope to us.
A section of our backyard:
As well as your car...
From the looks of it, this road (that runs right beside our neighbors house) got the brunt of the storm/tornado. And being that this felled tree took down a electric line, which was laying across the road, this last tree shot is as far as I got in my "friendly neighborhood tour".
The road was blocked off due to this "little guy". Here's the first 1/3...
You think? This little ditty of a statement was spoken to Jet, by the retired town mayor, as we walked around our neighborhood. surveying the damage following the tornado.
Yep, a tornado. At least that's how my neighborhood would categorize it. Though we're still waiting for the National Weather Service to give the official say-so.
THE ILL-TIMED YARDSALE:
Suffice it to say, it wasn't the best one I've ever had. Though the most memorable. *Forgive me a slight roll of the eyes, would you?*
It rained from 5 to 10 AM. At which point, the sun came out and preformed beautifully. Giving me enough time to make a whooping profit (after the newspaper ad) of $57, all while masterfully singing the lyrics for the 60's hit "It's my party and I'll cry if I want to..." over and over again.
But in the spirit of Pollyanna, Jet and I optimistically smiled as he dropped off our first round of large boxes at the local DropOff. At 9 AM. Can you tell we were anxious? But hey, it's junk that we will never have to deal with again. What's not to love about that?!
By 1 AM, we were loading up the remaining contents of 7 yard sale tables and the 10-foot long clothes hanging device. All the while, sorting out the stuff that we wanted to keep for next year's yard sale.
I know, I know, I'm a glutton for punishment. But we figured we made diddly-squat at this sale and we just can't bring ourselves to throw away almost new name-brand clothes (donated by family members) just for the sake of reducing clutter in the attic. But anyway.
Jet had just left with a truckload of boxes to take to the drop off...1 mile down the road....while Mom and I were leisurely packing up the boxes. And then, the rain hit.
Slowly. Slowly. No big deal. It even looked like it was going around our little town. But regardless, we worked fast to avoid getting wet.
Then...from the distance you could tell something was brewing. Well, at least Mom said she could. I was blissfully clueless. ... so maybe blissfully wasn't the best descriptor of my attitude at the time. But clueless 'bout sums it up.
The last of the boxes were just set on the porch, when we turned our attention to the fold up tables. Suddenly Mom yelled, "Quick. Forget the tables! Get the stuff inside!"
And the wind came.
Mom, having the presence of mind to think beyond the task at hand, asked if I wanted to bring in our doberman. "Uh, Nooooo." The thought of having a half-wet dog running through the house did not appeal to me on top of everything else I was doing.
As it obviously takes a lot of energy to be dramatic and annoyed.
Meanwhile, Super Mom ran to the backyard to close the door of our shed (*thanks mom*). Something I felt was completely irrelevant at the time.
We had literally JUST thrown all of the yardsale boxes in the front door, when the BIG winds hit. With full force.
THE TORNADO:
After that, I began to realize that this was not a normal summer storm. For those readers that experienced it, yes...it did take me a while to shake my clueless stupor.
Though to my defense, it only took half of a large tree crashing down on our cars. and the horizontal hail beating on the windows. But hey, I'm quick that way.
Then all logical thinking left.
I wanted to go outside and get my dog. move the cars. anything where I'd feel like I had some semblance of control. Obviously, I wasn't thinking straight. But my Calm and Collected Mother wouldn't allow me and my pregnant body to go outside, so all I could do was pray in the spirit.
...and frantically run upstairs to get Raegan up from her nap, trying desperately not to think about the possibilities as we sat in a house filled with 5 ft. bay windows and no basement.
Trying to calm my children, I could only lead them in half-mumbled, half-controlled sobbed prayers for Daddy who was still out in it. Especially as Charis tearfully whispered, "Will Daddy die?"
Uh? This is when Hug Therapy works wonders. Because words fail you.
At that moment, being the emotionally sound mom, I did the only thing I could do. I left the girls with Grandma.
So I could pace. stare out the windows. and watch in horror as our porch swing repeatedly beat the top of the porch roof and the second half of the tree fell on our cars.
All the while, asking outloud "God, where is my husband?" begging God to return him safely.
And then I saw him. just pulling in. drenched and sitting in his truck on our front grass. My immediate thought, after complete relief at his being alive and in one piece, was "Don't just sit there...I can't handle watching you get hurt in front of my eyes!" Thankfully, he ran inside or I would have gone out to him.
It's amazing to me how he changes everything. Even though nothing in our immediate circumstances changed, I felt safer and more at peace just having him there. His presence just does that.
...Even after he confessed that he thought his truck would take flight out in the middle of the storm. with him in it. as he watched electrical wires spark and fall all around him.
THE PICTURES:
Mom telling Jet (who had just removed his dripping wet shirt) how the tree went down. trying to survey the damage to our cars. and generally just giving the recap from our point of view.
Note: the worst part of it was over by now or they would not have been near the windows.
The girl's hideout. A corner of our kitchen. The only place in the downstairs that is not directly surrounded by multiple windows.
A few minutes after things had quieted down, Jet's cell phone rang. It was our friends Nell-Marie and Gil, calling to make sure we were okay. (They were on their way to the mountains and, if I understand it correctly, saw our house as they passed. That's N.M. in the picture). While Jet was still talking to Nell-Marie, another friend (Aaron S) beeped in.
I can't tell you how blessed we were by those calls. Life from outside the storm. It was literally like tangible Hope to us.
If you look at the above picture carefully, you can see the tree's two different sections. The tree came down a half at a time. Amazingly it didn't come straight through our living room windows. Which are a few feet from where it fell. Where we were sitting when it first happened.
Mom's van took the brunt of the tree. But again, amazingly enough, it only knocked out her front light. Which was put back in and works/looks perfectly!!! HOW is that possible?!
Even as we got a closer look, we all agree it should have shattered her windows. Thankfully, we don't serve a God of "should'ves" by physic's standards.
Our car came away with minimal scratches. Nothing more.
And even Raegan's car was safe. Which is good since she opted not to insure it...
A section of our backyard:
Not too much damage, but enough to make a mess everywhere. Our neighbor, who was watching the storm from his back window, said that he knew to go to his basement when our tree limb's started coming off horizontally.
It wasn't long after the wind stopped that you could hear fire trucks and sirens all across the area. My guess by the unfamiliar look of this fire truck is that they had to recruit firemen from surrounding counties.
Some of the neighborhood...
Trees were down everywhere.
Chances were, if you had trees, your yard was effected.
As well as your car...
From the looks of it, this road (that runs right beside our neighbors house) got the brunt of the storm/tornado. And being that this felled tree took down a electric line, which was laying across the road, this last tree shot is as far as I got in my "friendly neighborhood tour".
The road was blocked off due to this "little guy". Here's the first 1/3...
And here's the remaining section of the 125 (ish) year old tree.
And just to give you true perspective, here's a man standing beside it.
It's HUGE (as is the house). Had it fallen the other direction... well, I don't even want to imagine.
But that's how it was ALL throughout the neighborhood. large trees were down. but no one was hurt. And the only place on the above house that was damaged? See the little 2nd story porch? The left corner of the roof was nicked. but only barely.
The funny thing. The man said that he had just signed a contract with a man to come and take care of that tree. Well...I guess that's a contract broken. huh? And our tree? We had just talked about how it was becoming too big for the house. We were planning on trimming it heavily. No need now, eh?
I'll miss it's shade and all, but leave-raking time will be easier. :) AND we even had a pleasant little neighborhood block party to boot. Where I actually got to talk with neighbors I hadn't met in the last 3+ years of living here. That's a bonus.
See how easily I pull off this Pollyanna thing?
and another amazing thing? Remember that tree that our neighbors took down last year? (click on the link to see a picture) Well...had it been there, it would have crushed our house. Literally. We are/were praising the Lord unabashedly for that miracle.
AND for the fact that Mom happened to show up to help at our yardsale. Had she not been there when the tornado hit... Again, I don't want to imagine. But I can assure you yardsale things would still be strewn all over the town. And I may very well be hospitalized for trauma during late pregnancy (I WAS contracting a lot following that event).
So there are miracles all throughout our little Tornado Experience. *thank you Jesus*
But one thing that may never recover? My respect for the validity of http://www.accuweather.com/ ... It suffered an irreversible blow. They had us forecasted for a 20% chance of light rain in the afternoon. I'm thinking they were a bit off.
But what do I know? :)
August 1, 2008
Must. Change. Something.
It's official. I have lost all ability to reason.
While I should be tackling the dozen boxes of yard sale things in my living room downstairs, I am not. Instead I am walking through my house obsessively. Eyeballing this. Mentally rearranging that. Racking my brain for any and all creative ideas on how to inexpensively change our home.
For the second time in the past month.
I can't help myself. But! and it must be said... I have found some brilliant ideas. Hopefully soon, I'll be able to do change something, so home sweet home will feel "better" to this 3rd Trimester Pregnant Crazy-Nesting Brain of mine.
Take a look at our Family Room, for instance. Which DRIVES ME CRAZY.
and another. Yes. they were watching Veggie Tales. :)
No matter what I've done to this room in the past, everything about it annoys me. The fireplace. The paneled walls. The color. But due to the fact that *change* costs money and we're trying to pay off our beloved Mortgage, there's only so much that can be done. You know?
Our Living Room...
And though I've recently de-formalized it by bringing down kids books and games and toys and stuffed animals, it still feels a little "stuffy" to me. Like it's a fun room, but... not.
And Hello! I'm so not using the MASSIVE wall space (due to high high ceilings) that we got going on. And that is a HUGE frame you see behind the couch, just to give you a little insider's view. Huge, I tell you.
But thanks to my new-found need to Change EVERYTHING in site and the internet filled with endlesss waste-your-time hours of viewing pleasure, I have many ideas. No money, mind you. But many an idea.
Now... off to stare at my yard sale boxes.
While I should be tackling the dozen boxes of yard sale things in my living room downstairs, I am not. Instead I am walking through my house obsessively. Eyeballing this. Mentally rearranging that. Racking my brain for any and all creative ideas on how to inexpensively change our home.
For the second time in the past month.
I can't help myself. But! and it must be said... I have found some brilliant ideas. Hopefully soon, I'll be able to do change something, so home sweet home will feel "better" to this 3rd Trimester Pregnant Crazy-Nesting Brain of mine.
Take a look at our Family Room, for instance. Which DRIVES ME CRAZY.
Can I tell you how many times I've changed the mantle around in this room!!? (Note: I do not like the current arrangement. It's a new thing. A I'm-trying-it-out-for-a-while thing. It will not be there next week.)
And here's another angle...
and another. Yes. they were watching Veggie Tales. :)
No matter what I've done to this room in the past, everything about it annoys me. The fireplace. The paneled walls. The color. But due to the fact that *change* costs money and we're trying to pay off our beloved Mortgage, there's only so much that can be done. You know?Our Living Room...
And though I've recently de-formalized it by bringing down kids books and games and toys and stuffed animals, it still feels a little "stuffy" to me. Like it's a fun room, but... not.
And Hello! I'm so not using the MASSIVE wall space (due to high high ceilings) that we got going on. And that is a HUGE frame you see behind the couch, just to give you a little insider's view. Huge, I tell you.
But thanks to my new-found need to Change EVERYTHING in site and the internet filled with endlesss waste-your-time hours of viewing pleasure, I have many ideas. No money, mind you. But many an idea.
Now... off to stare at my yard sale boxes.
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